A New Way Of Coexistence Between Couples

Jessica Quinonez-Rafaeli
2 min readJun 2, 2021


This new way of coexistence between couples, whether they are married or not. Couples who have a monogamous relationship but live in separate houses, that is, emotionally together but physically apart. This new type of relationship has been called LAT (Living Apart Together).

Examples of these couples can be seen in Hollywood celebrities as Gwyneth Paltrow and her husband Brad Falchuk have been living, they decided to live this way since each one has children from previous relationships and therefore, they only spend a few nights together.

Originally this idea was born from the need of couples for working reasons. In the desire of men and women to develop their own professional careers, since they had homes in different cities and they saw each other when their time allowed it, however, what was initially necessary, now this kind of life has become a choice.

A study from the University of Missouri in the United States reported that more and more couples are opting for this type of modality and the numbers have increased lately.

The reasons can be quite diverse, from comfort, economic situations, etc., but in general the experts point towards one direction: the fear of commitment and the lack of availability to lose freedom by having to live under the same roof.

We might believe that these relationships would have less tendency to separate, however, they are not spared from the risk of failure. In the book Changing Relationships, British sociologists Malcolm Brynin and John Ermisch suggested that on average after four years of living in this type of relationship, 45% of couples separate, while 35% go to live together under the same roof and 10% get married and live together under the same roof. This suggests that half are still together and the other half are separated.

The divorce rate in Latin America has been increasing as in almost all countries. On average in Latin America 20% of married couples divorce, however, the increase is obviously higher in European countries such as Spain (61%), Portugal (68%) and Belgium (70%).

What do you think of this new type of coexistence as a couple?



Jessica Quinonez-Rafaeli

My professional experience was focused for 10 years in the Psychology field. Now, I’m focused on the writing skills as an English and Spanish content writer.